Skip to content

Sexual Healing

November 13, 2008

Marvin GayeSo I am really confused. I really don’t understand what is going on and it causes me to ask lots of questions. Just recently Ed Young, the senior pastor at Fellowship Church in Texas, encouraged the married couples in his congregation to have sex everyday for a week.

Woo hoo, right? He challenged them to do this knowing that with the economy in the crapper that times can get very stressful. Since money is something that is frequently argued about in marriages there is a very good chance that many marriages are hurting in part because of the state of the economy. Sex can very easily help a couple bridge some intimacy issues. You are paying attention to your spouse ad having fun together…I hope. 🙂 Now this isn’t a fix all but at least it’s a start, right?

I am not a Fellowshipper or an avid Ed Young fan so I am not writing to back him up. I am writing because I don’t understand the media. The media uses sex to sell almost everything now. Even churches like to stretch a bit and use it too (maybe a little different but you get the point)! Well around the DFW area people and the media seem to be freaking out about this whole idea! I don’t get it! Heaven forbid a church talk about a married couple having sex! That’s just terrible!

I have been a part of a church that pushes the envelope for quite some time but I have also been to some churches that are very conservative too. I understand that some people are just not comfortable talking about sex. That’s fine. To each his own. But why are we sooooo freaking out because a pastor challenged his congregation to try to help their marriages grow stronger in the midst of hard times!?

I’m just not sure I understand. The news stations are covering this like it is completely ridiculous! They are talking about how some people don’t wanna had sex every day. Ok. Good for them! No one is forcing them to do anything! It’s a suggestion! I mean obviously sex isn’t always the best thing to do when you are broke. Actually making babies when you are broke isn’t necessarily the best practice (not sure Dave Ramsey would sign off on it). That’s how people end up on welfare with 46 kids and they wonder why they can’t afford to live. Ha.

So for those of you wiser than me, why is this so controversial? I would think people would jump at an excuse like this! I have never been to Fellowship but that’s what I call “off the chain”! (a little inside joke for you people) I mean the idea sounds good to me! Marvin Gaye and many other R&B artists should be lining up to shake Ed’s hand for all the money they are gonna make off this!

What do you think? Is this as crazy as everyone seems to think it is? Am I the only one that doesn’t see the big deal?

2 Comments leave one →
  1. November 13, 2008 8:08 PM

    Well Brook. I think a lot of people get upset, because, as you and I both know sex leads to dancing.

  2. Dawn Bailey permalink
    November 19, 2008 11:37 PM

    Thank you for your insight…finally, someone who makes sense! Here are some of my thoughts as a wife and mother:

    Before you raise an eyebrow about this challenge…check out this past weekend’s message at to see what God says about sex and marriage in scripture.

    Why do we continue to allow the media to dictate sexual norms? As a mother of 3 teenage boys, I am deeply troubled by the volume of casual sex bombarding our kids. Sexual intercourse carries with it deep emotional, physical, and spiritual ramifications that if taken out of the marriage bed can do significant harm. No one bats an eyelash at the porn star reality show, yet we are quick to criticize this open discussion in church. Have you checked the stats on pornography, infidelity, and divorce?? The enemy is having a field day!

    It is time that sex is taken back from our culture and returned to the place where it all began—one man and one woman in marriage, God’s way. ^i^

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: